habits origin

how do we get habits? quite like the animals get their reflexes: if you ring a bell before feeding a pet for few weeks, quite likely the pet will come on the bell ringing even if you would not feed it afterwards. repeated enough times the habit comes.

so, who's that bell master for us? well, we are no other. yet most do not recognise it, thus habits form as parasites without anyone's notice. as a harmless example, everybody knows that sun is yellow. yet, why do we call it yellow, say not green? we'd call it green if we were taught so from childhood. thus, 'yellow' here is no more than something that someone in the past considered 'convenient'. in itself it does not mean that it has to be convenient or right. if it rains, it does not mean that anyone should feel down. i smile to the rain as i smile towards the sun. smile! this'll get things little better for sure. :)

so, nearly every reaction and thought dictated by something repeated many times, like that bell. therefore, if a reaction or thought brings harm, it can be taught otherwise, given adequate effort. this is the basic principle and the first step on the way of happiness.

good luck.
mickael